First Kisses Should Be Like Eating

OK...get ready for the start of what has been a "work in progress" for far too long:

AWKWARD EMAILS, PROFILES, (and photos, if I can work out that old legal side of things).

First of all, let's get more exact.  I'm here to help myself, and hopefully help you, if you choose to venture into the online dating world.  I have had past profiles on Match.com, eHarmony, Chemistry.com, and Yahoo Personals.  I am now on a social-group specific site (sorry, still no exacts there!), OKCupid, Plenty of Fish, and Zoosk.  I think that covers it.  I think.  For now?  Hahaha.  I have only paid for the socially specific site and find very little reason to pay for memberships on some of the others, not because I can get enough for free so why bother, but because the site set-up and their membership base isn't really my...cup of tea?  (And maybe shouldn't be anybody's.)

I will get into success rates and averages later, as I would like to avoid doing too much math this late at night (and I feel almost any math should be considered "too much" for me; we just don't get along well), but I do want to share THE awkward email of the day, unedited:

ScreenName#tocome - 48 - Male - Divorced - Kids That Don't Live at Home

"Hi... I think should meet up... whats happening? Hope you have been doing well... let's talk. I have seen your profile several times... And each time I think I need to see if she is interested. Well I checking now.
What do you think?


James"

I tried to reply with my standard, kind "Not interested" style email, clicked send, and got the following message:

"You have been blocked by this user. Find someone else... Return to your inbox."

Blocked before he could even be rejected.  What the hell?  You're 48 years old and cannot send a message without a jolt of regret a mere minute after hitting SEND?  Wow.  Not a big deal, but odd.  Boys are weird.
 
In other WAAAAY better news, the first-meet / date last night went well.  He's even more charming and attractive than I thought, and a great kisser.  I am VERY much the gal that's ANTI-kiss-at-the-end-of-the-night.  I attribute the Goodnight Kiss vs. Great First Kiss to eating. 
 

Yes, eating.

 

You should eat when you're hungry, when you feel like eating, not because it's "time" to.  Do it when you feel it, not because it's "supposed " to happen.  First kisses should be in the moment you feel like kissing each other, not because it's what's supposed to happen at the end of a date.  Boring.  Awkward.  Icky to me, overall.

 

This guy kissed me sweetly and carefree in the middle of a busy cafe, in front of a couple of my friends, just because it felt right in that moment.  He kissed me a lot more after that, and especially when we were alone.

 

I haven't heard from him yet today.  Some men play the Don't Call Until game, no matter how interested they are.  We'll see.  I'm not worried or all that bothered.  I mean, I didn't contact him, so I'm just as guilty, if you wanna call it that. 

 
 
And he did end up being his posted height.  : )