I had joined a sight a few years back to get a good match (hahaha) and had gone out on dates with three different men...all in the same time period (we were not exclusive and they knew this)...until I knew which of them I liked best. D turned out to not be all that interesting, though he had a very nice home. E seemed to be really into me, and was cute, but didn't have a personality that could keep up with mine, so that ended. J, however, was SUPER. He was my favorite from the start and after a weekend getaway (which was actually supposed to be a trip with an ex...it was free and we were going to go to Sea World and there were NO romantic intentions...but he back out the day before, so I invited J last minute) he really grew on me. No, we didn't do anything scandalous. It was so fun, though. We continued to date for about a month and a half, but then he saw that I really liked him and he is just not the relationship type, I guess, so we stopped seeing each other. We actually got in a huge STUPID fight over my driving just above the speed limit but not fast enough for others and how I should change lanes instead of expecting them to.
He yelled at me.
Over the phone.
AKA: he was not there and didn't really know what was going on; obviously he was upset about other things that had nothing to do with my driving.
We didn't talk for a long time. But we're friends again...well, friendly again. We don't talk all that often, but after I posted a new social networking site default pic he sure is chatty. Hahaha.
That was the end of trying to find my match there...so I moved on to a more harmonious site along with their newest sister-site to really find my chemical beau...and went on NO dates from either. I even had one guy saying how he thought anybody who slept with any more than 5 guys is a whore, no matter their age. Bye bye, buddy - I don't care how very cute you are, but you and I will not get on well.
So I canceled those memberships and moved on to a free site after my best friend pressured me into signing up (this seemed more like a social networking site in those days anyway, so why not?). On this site, I thought I'd have some fun while cupid did an OK job of finding me a man.
Nope.
But then I started dating a friend...and then he didn't want to commit until I started dating another (and then he was in LOOOOVE with me...too little too late) and I thought I had met the man I was going to marry in that another.
Fail.
So, I eventually hopped back on. I had a boyfriend recently (see prior posts) that I met on a fishy sort of site, and when we became exclusive I deleted that account....Aaaaaaand now I'm back on the site that I think is OK, but refuse to hit up the fishy site any time soon - the set up just wasn't as good, fun, or helpful - and I soooo don't want to bump into my ex's profile.
Now to my main point: I am now on THREE dating sites. Each have options to pay, but I've posted profiles without doing such (I just don't have the money to spend on something like this right now, y'all). I gotta say, it's a lot of fun right now! I'll keep you posted on the comings and goings.
To catch you up:OK = 7 days; added as a favorite by a few; 1 phone number exchange after a few emails and IMs
Yeah, Who? = 2 days; 10 men; 10 deletions
Social Group Specific = 4 days; 20 emails & winks (all different men); A handful of REALLY cute men; 1 phone number exchange with a few phone calls; 1 man I'm dying to be in touch with, but neither of us is paying so we can't email each other. Grrr.
It's fun this time, though. And I've been trying to do things in a different fashion this time around (ie: being the one to end the conversation before they do, leave them wanting more / not being so available / make them come after me).
It all feels different right now. I've been keeping my life in better order anyway. This started before my breakup, but it's what I've been trying to focus on since then, and it feels GREAT!
Now if I could only sleep for more than 4 hours each night...
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